Where have all the Housewives Gone?

Posted by Mrs Money on February 26th, 2010


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Ah, remember the good old days of the Fifties? Nope, neither do I.  I have always been intrigued by that era though.  The soda fountains, sock hops, and relaxed atmosphere.  I totally believe I would have been a fantastic housewife during the Fifties.  I’d wear my cute little apron, hang laundry on Monday, have dinner ready by the time hubby came home, and make sure the kids were having fun playing outside in the fresh air and sunshine.  *sigh*

It seems that housewives are now extinct.  I, for one, am really sad about this.  I think there is a lot of value in housewives.  I know between working full time, keeping up with the household chores, and blogging I feel like I barely have time to rest!  I get tired just thinking about my days sometimes.  I think that if we could afford it, and I wouldn’t feel like a lazy buns, I could totally rock the housewife persona.  I’d be super organized and make a schedule.

My paternal grandmother went by a schedule like this:
Monday: Wash Day
Tuesday: Ironing Day
Wednesday: Sewing Day
Thursday: Market Day
Friday: Cleaning Day
Saturday: Baking Day
Sunday: Day of Rest

I’d have to mix it up a little and mine would probably look like this:
Monday: Wash Day
Tuesday: Blogging Day (LOLOL)
Wednesday: Sewing/Crafting Day
Thursday: Grocery shopping
Friday: Deep Cleaning Day
Saturday: Baking Day
Sunday: Day of Rest (another blog day!)

Seriously though, if I ever worked from home I really wouldn’t do that.  I’d make sure to take time to blog every day! 😉

I think one of the best things about housewives is being home makers.  I think homemaking is an art.  Homemakers make the house a home.  They transform ordinary houses into warm, inviting, safe havens for their families.  They manage the family’s finances, clip coupons, and ensure the household runs smoothly.  What an important job!

Do you know any women currently that choose to be homemakers? What’s your opinion on housewives?

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78 Responses to “Where have all the Housewives Gone?”

  1. Mrs Money says:

    Deanna- Wow, you are an RN and chose to stay home. That is great! 🙂 I am sure your knowledge comes in handy every day with being a mom.

    That’s great you’ve learned to cook well. I need to learn how to cook better.

    I would love to be able to pursue some more hobbies and get things done that I’ve been putting to the side. That would be fantastic!

    I’m so glad it’s worked out for you! 🙂


  2. Mrs Money says:

    Mrs. Accountability- Thank you so much! I hope that your dreams come true soon! 🙂


  3. Mrs Money says:

    Jody- Wow! You are a busy woman. I know there are a lot of sacrifices that are made when a woman stays at home, but if they enjoy it, then it’s worth it. 🙂

    Thank you!


  4. Mrs Money says:

    Bucksome Boomer- Probably 🙂 I am a very very good dreamer. lol The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. I do think it’s great that people can make choices on whether or not the want to stay at home. That’s invaluable!


  5. Mrs Money says:

    H Lee D- I totally think a happy career is more important than a spotless house! I don’t think anyone should be unhappy. 🙂 Great point!


  6. Kelly says:

    I’m a stay at home mom, but I don’t consider myself a housewife. There was a point in my life when I aspired to that, but not anymore. It’s an idealized notion, and really I don’t have time for it! Kids in the 50s were mainly ignored, and women were treated very differently, so I wouldn’t want to go back to that era.

    Being at home is isolating and exhausting, but I still wouldn’t trade it for working full-time and trying to manage everything else.

    One thing that stinks though-if you have family, neighbors, or a husband that doesn’t understand what staying at home means, you may end up with all their errands.

    It’s a complex subject, I think! Great post.


    Mrs Money Reply:

    Kelly- I think you are doing a great job! I think it will be interesting with what the future holds.

    Thanks! 🙂


  7. Jen says:

    Thanks Evan, that’s exactly what I was thinking. It’s all a fantasy. Women back then worked very hard and often had no control over money. Kids were so much more well behaved back then because of lots of corporal punishment. The good old days weren’t all that.


  8. Mrs Money says:

    Robert- I think that if it works for a family, that is great! I’m sad the time is gone too 🙁


  9. Shery says:

    I come from a family in which almost none of the women work. And frankly, after being surrounded by housewives all my life, I can definetly say that this is NOT the way I wanna go. Don’t get me wrong; I’m in no way demeaning or undermining what happy housewives can and do. However, I’ve seen too many cases in which a housewife split from her husband after 20, maybe even 30 years. What are the odds of such a woman being able to fund herself? Pay her own bills? Find a job? Alamony doesn’t cover anything after the kids are old enough. And today, you can’t risk the statistics of happily ever after; divorce can hit you even fourty years down the road.

    So that’s one reason I never want to put myself in such a potentially dependable situation; the spouse might be able to pay for house cleaning services and use a laundramat, but the unemployed divorced housewife is gonna remain unemployed.

    Another reason (for me) is that I’m somewhat of a workhalic. I *love* to work. Between the choice of working and not, if income becomes irrelevant, I’ll always choose to work. I’m currently feeling like I’m dying inside because I can’t, due to a conflicting school schedule with almost any job available to me.

    A third reason is purely mental; I need to get out of the house, and not just to drive kids around. I like having an office that isn’t at home, and even if I woke up on the wrong foot, going out is what’s going to help me hop to theother one. Staying at home will make me (and thereby- everyone around me) want to make something go boom.

    And what I hate the most is that when I tell people that even if I do decide to have children at some random point in the future, I still wouldn’t stay at home, they question my feminity.

    Two faced world, plz.


    Mrs Money Reply:

    Shery- I am so happy you love what you do! I think it is so important to be happy in your work.

    I think that every woman should have the choice to choose whether or not they stay at home with their kids. I agree- if it makes you happier to work, then that’s great! I don’t think anyone should make you feel bad that you want to work if you have kids. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. I think it’s a personal decision and people should accept that. 🙂


  10. After my son was born, my wife quit working and raised him and my daughter. Now that my daughter is in half day kindergarden, she work 8 hours a week (split between 2 days).

    She told me she loved it! She really enjoys being a mom! the only down fall is that our net worth would have been almost a million if she would have kept working, click here to check out my article if you interested!

    Overall though, I’m happy with the way my kids are turning out.


    Mrs Money Reply:

    Money Reasons- I think that’s great your wife loves it! I know that there will be a definite income loss, but if it works for the family and everyone is happy, I think it’s worth it. 🙂 I am so glad you and your wife value her time as a stay at home mom. 🙂


  11. Corrie says:

    I work part-time, but consider myself a homemaker, too. I just love my job as much as I love my home.


    Mrs Money Reply:

    Corrie- That is fantastic! I love to hear that people love their jobs. That’s how it should be. 🙂


  12. Holly says:

    I am a SAHM and my kids are 14, 12, and 9. I can honestly say that I have chosen to stay at home because my mother was a nurse; she was always sleeping the days away and grouchy or simply disinterested in the goings-on w/the family.

    I ended up getting in some trouble while noone was looking and eventually, my parents divorced (I have been married now for 3 years longer than my parents were). I decided that would give up the career (temporarily) for the sake of making sure my kids always had me to guide them.

    Even though I sometimes wish I could be making $60000/yr. like my sis, I know that I have made the right choice. I feel fortunate that I was able to spend this time w/my children. My husband says, “I’ll work the first 20, you can work the next 20.” Fine w/me, ’cause he’ll have to deal w/the teenagers! LOL


    Mrs Money Reply:

    Holly- I’m so sorry to hear that 🙁 I think you are doing the right thing if it makes you and your family happy! And definitely let your hubby deal with the teenagers! 😉


  13. Joyce says:

    Well be careful what you wish for. I worked all my life until taking early retirement. Now I’m stuck with the housecleaning and no one wants to help out even on mother’s day or my birthday. I have thought about leaving seriously leaving. So good luck to all of you who think it’s a fairy tale. I’d rather be working for money dearies.


    Mrs Money Reply:

    Joyce- I am so sorry to hear that 🙁 I would definitely help you if I was close enough! xoxo


  14. Debra Tincher-Graves says:

    I am with you, I am now 53 going on 54 and I just quit working last year to fulfill my life lone dream of being a “50” housewife/homemaker. I love it and I don’t know how I found time to work. My husband love it too and my schedule is just as you and created …. Monday is laundry day ( I make my own laundry soap) and I hang my laundry outside the smell is unbelievable and lasts for weeks on the sheets. Tuesday is Ironing day so I pop in one of my retro movies and Iron ( love it) I bake, sew, learning to crochet, needlework. I keep the budget, run errand exercise, keep us on a diet. I am not so stressed and I am in a good mood all the time. I love the feeling. I am that 50’s homemaker and I take very good care of my husband I fix him breakfast, pack his lunch and always have dinner ready. We don’t have a big house but it’s ours and I love taking care of it. I just wish I was 20 starting out with my husband as a homemaker. I have alway worked outside the home and great job, but nothing beat this job. I have a garden and I can food…God I love being a homemaker. you might have to give up the best car or even the big house but, what you gain is well worth it. Oh by the way if you do this whole thing right you will never be board.

    Best of Luck



  15. SSG says:


    I’m a housewife now…and I do remember the 50s & 60s. Unless you were upper income, most women had some kind of job outside the home, and were homemakers as well. This describes most of my life…I will say my second husband (of 24 years) has been far and away a near saint in helping with the housework!

    As to the financial aspects: When you’ve got kids at home, in the economy we have now, the additional cash from working is a near-necessity. Once the kids are grown, the amount we save from me doing all the money management is arguably a significant offset of the lack of my salary, as is the lack of eating out, driving expenses, clothing expenses, and so on. The biggest financial downside is that as far as Social Security is concerned, I do no “work”, and therefore I earn no retirement or disability credits.

    This is something we should all be campaigning for.



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