Where have all the Housewives Gone?

Posted by Mrs Money on February 26th, 2010

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Ah, remember the good old days of the Fifties? Nope, neither do I.  I have always been intrigued by that era though.  The soda fountains, sock hops, and relaxed atmosphere.  I totally believe I would have been a fantastic housewife during the Fifties.  I’d wear my cute little apron, hang laundry on Monday, have dinner ready by the time hubby came home, and make sure the kids were having fun playing outside in the fresh air and sunshine.  *sigh*

It seems that housewives are now extinct.  I, for one, am really sad about this.  I think there is a lot of value in housewives.  I know between working full time, keeping up with the household chores, and blogging I feel like I barely have time to rest!  I get tired just thinking about my days sometimes.  I think that if we could afford it, and I wouldn’t feel like a lazy buns, I could totally rock the housewife persona.  I’d be super organized and make a schedule.

My paternal grandmother went by a schedule like this:
Monday: Wash Day
Tuesday: Ironing Day
Wednesday: Sewing Day
Thursday: Market Day
Friday: Cleaning Day
Saturday: Baking Day
Sunday: Day of Rest

I’d have to mix it up a little and mine would probably look like this:
Monday: Wash Day
Tuesday: Blogging Day (LOLOL)
Wednesday: Sewing/Crafting Day
Thursday: Grocery shopping
Friday: Deep Cleaning Day
Saturday: Baking Day
Sunday: Day of Rest (another blog day!)

Seriously though, if I ever worked from home I really wouldn’t do that.  I’d make sure to take time to blog every day! ;)

I think one of the best things about housewives is being home makers.  I think homemaking is an art.  Homemakers make the house a home.  They transform ordinary houses into warm, inviting, safe havens for their families.  They manage the family’s finances, clip coupons, and ensure the household runs smoothly.  What an important job!

Do you know any women currently that choose to be homemakers? What’s your opinion on housewives?

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78 Responses to “Where have all the Housewives Gone?”


  1. I grew up thinking that the role of a housewife was a definite thing of the past. But then I got married, and we both work, and suddenly the role appealed to me. I love my husband dearly, but I don’t like how he cleans – I’m grateful that he’ll clean the bathroom when I don’t have the time, but I guess I’m just a bit picky. :) Maybe someday when the debt is gone and we have more stability.

    I like your day dedicated to blogging. I’d definitely want a day dedicated to writing.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Saving Her Life- My mom has been a stay at home mom and housewife since she had kids. I guess I grew up thinking that was “normal”. I dream of being able to at least work part time. I think that would be great!

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  2. I happen to be a homemaker. There are too many issues associated with that to write about it all here. Maybe I’ll do a post about it one day.

    It’s pretty easy to feel like a useless dinosaur sometimes, but I really believe I’ve added value to our lives by being there for our kids and managing our finances.

    Home making really is an art, but as my boys are older now, I wonder if I should be doing something else to help out financially and make use of my education. It’s not easy to figure out what you want to be when you grow up when you’re already grown up. For now, I am pursuing something I love: writing. So far it doesn’t pay well, but who knows?

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    2 Cents- That’s great! I think you should definitely do a post about it. I would love to read about it.

    I don’t think you are useless at all. I am actually a little jealous you can do that! ;) I definitely think you have added value to your life and your family’s if it’s something you enjoy.

    I know what you mean- I LOVE writing and I’m so glad I can blog and share my ideas with others, but the monetary aspect is a little lagging. ;)

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    SSG Reply:

    2Cents:

    I’m a housewife now…and I do remember the 50s & 60s. Unless you were upper income, most women had some kind of job outside the home, and were homemakers as well. This describes most of my life…I will say my second husband (of 24 years) has been far and away a near saint in helping with the housework!

    As to the financial aspects: When you’ve got kids at home, in the economy we have now, the additional cash from working is a near-necessity. Once the kids are grown, the amount we save from me doing all the money management is arguably a significant offset of the lack of my salary, as is the lack of eating out, driving expenses, clothing expenses, and so on. The biggest financial downside is that as far as Social Security is concerned, I do no “work”, and therefore I earn no retirement or disability credits.

    This is something we should all be campaigning for.

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  3. Catherine says:

    I think our society greatly undervalues homemakers. My mom stayed at home with me and my sister, but my parents had one car, we didn’t have cable, no fancy gadgets, and they paid for things outright. Now two cars (people bewilderingly choose massive fuel inefficient ones), expensive entertainment systems, and such seem like entitlements to people.

    Sadly, many women are trapped in jobs paying off student loans, credit card debt, or to get the health benefits. The sad state of maternity leave (six weeks at my job) doesn’t help matters. It seems women are robbed of their choice to be a homemaker if they desire. That’s why I love financial empowerment sites such as your own.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Catherine- I agree. My mom stayed home with us too and I think that’s one of the best experiences of my life. We didn’t have cable either. I never missed out! I remember when I went to my aunt’s and I thought it was so cool because she had a VCR.

    Health insurance sucks, plain and simple. I could go on about that for days. And 6 weeks maternity leave makes me sick. :( Women are just bonding with their babies at that time and then get thrown back into work.

    Aww, thanks! :)

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  4. brite says:

    I’m a homemeaker, and while I will never wear heels again (especially not while working around the house!) my schedule looks a lot like your grandmother’s. I got married at 26, after much traveling and interesting employment. I can truly say this is the most meaningful work I’ve ever done. On a day-to-day basis it doesn’t always feel like it, but when I stand back and look at it from a big-picture perspective I know I am truly changing the world from my little corner. Besides taking care of my three kids and husband, I have time to try to notice the needs of my neighbors and friends…make them a meal, take care of their kids, have coffee with a hurting friend. I have friends who work and I am in awe of their load and how they manage! But most admit there is no way to get it all done the way they’d like. So, all that to say, I don’t think it’s fair to expect women to “do it all” and so I’ve decided to focus on making our home the main priority. I think we’re all happier because of it!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    brite- That is so encouraging! I love that you have time to help others out. I don’t think there’s anything more rewarding than that. I always feel like my job leaves me empty, and I think that I am lacking the feeling that I’m making a difference in someone’s life.

    Working full time and having to take care of the house is a lot of work. My husband works 12 hour days so I don’t expect him to do a lot around the house. I enjoy being the one who does most of the things.

    Thanks for sharing your story!

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  5. ArdenLynn says:

    College educated woman here that has chosen to use my time and talents to the benefit of my family. Is that what you mean by housewife?
    I grew up in a two income family and decided that I would never jump on that hampster wheel. I remember my mom being tired and grouchy and everything was a big deal. Laundry, cooking, school projects – she couldn’t keep up and made us feel guilty for it. Blah
    If there is a corner, I cut it. I bake, use free resources like the library, my kids do cheap community sports no travel teams, we have old cars. I feel like anything but a lazy buns. Staying home is a huge priority and one we work for every day.

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    Jenny Reply:

    You hit the nail on the head regarding mothers and guilt. My mom taught school so she’d used all her patience up on other people’s kids by the time she came home. She was so tired all the time and I feel like I missed out on a lot of good times with her. I hated daycare and vowed to never send my kids. Of course, my parents were able to pay for all my college that scholarships didn’t cover, and I appreciate it, but I’d have GLADLY sacrificed it for a happy stay-at-home mom. I always, always wanted one.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Jenny- I visited a daycare once where my nephew goes and it made me cry! :( The thought of sending my kids to daycare scares me.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Arden Lynn- Good for you! I am so proud of you! And I love that you are college educated and yet chose to stay at home and do what you believe is important. :) That makes me happy.

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  6. This year I became a housewife by default. Since we moved to France, I knew it would take me a while to find work–six months later, I still have no job. I definitely felt a little weird about not working at first, and my knee-jerk reaction was to run out, and get whatever job I could.

    But I didn’t do that. I decided to take the time, stay home and deal with all the time-consuming things that are involved with an international move–which keeps the stress off both of us. I do move related work, paperwork, deal with bureaucracies (no small task in France), do all the cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, budgetting, plus various DIY things that save us money. We are both more relaxed this way. Both of us are used to working full time and then trying to share these extra duties. We both have more time this way.

    I once asked my husband if he ever wanted to change roles–if I were able to find work, would he want to stay home and take care of all the ‘administrative’ duties, cooking, budgetting etc. He looked stressed and overwhelmed. He thought he couldn’t handle it and wasn’t ‘organized’ enough. I personally don’t think housework is particularly hard or disagreeable, but I suppose it’s not everyone’s thing!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    simple in France- I am glad that things are going well for you! I know that running out and getting whatever job you could would probably not make you happy. :)

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  7. I love the idea – but I’m terrible in the execution. I agree that a housewife can really make a house a home. I think that a housewife can spend as much or more time doing this than a professional woman can at work. I also think that it is one of the most under-appreciated jobs out there – and this is where it breaks down for me.

    I like the recognition and the praise I get (got) as a professional, even from my kids(!). I like seeing *progress* and being able to point to goals accomplished, and items crossed off the list. I don’t get that as a SAHM, so to do the SAHM thing really well (for me at least), I would have to learn to find my own joy in it and be my own cheerleader. Much easier to find another paying job :)

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    ami- I think it’s one of the most under-appreciated jobs too. I think there’s a negative stigma associated with women who stay at home.

    I think that it’s such a personal decision whether a woman would be happy at home and it’s hard to make a blanket statement. I truly believe that if a woman wants to work, more power to her! That’s admirable too. :)

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  8. AJ says:

    I absolutely admire housewives and the 50′s era. My husband and I believe we were born into the wrong decade, because we’re both very traditional and have strong values and the 50′s just seems more suitable. Or at least looking back it does! I know it had it’s struggles as well.

    In July I’ll start working from home (baby due) and I can’t wait. When my mother was ill years ago, I took over the household and cared for my two younger sisters. I enjoyed it. Had meals ready, the place was clean, etc. Fast forward to now, we’re on our own and both work fulltime and let me tell you…household chores very rarely get done!! I think if I had more time at home, it would be kept up so much better and we wouldn’t have to waste our weekends playing “catch up” on cleaning.

    I don’t think I could ever be a fulltime housewife, I think I’d get bored. I’d have to take on some sort of at-home work or hobby, that’s for sure. :)

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    AJ- I believe that too! I wish that more people had values like they did back then.

    I’ll bet you are sooo excited! I am happy you are able to do that. It is hard to work full time and take care of all the house duties. I agree about the weekends being spent cleaning- that’s pretty much what I’ve done all day.

    Hobbies are great! I knit and sew and love it!

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  9. If we’re blessed enough to have children, I’d love to be a stay-at-home mom and “housewife.” It’s in my persona. Of course, I’d likely work part-time from home as a writer, but it would still be wonderful, IMHO. Financially, though, it would be difficult, and I think that’s the issue for a lot of women who would prefer to be home.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    RainyDaySaver- It’s my persona too. I would love to be able to work as a writer too! That would be great. I know that I work because of the money. I feel that I’ve worked hard to establish my career and if I quit or cut back I’d be viewed as lazy. :(

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  10. Jenny says:

    I am a housewife, but I’m also a stay-at-home mom. I never stayed home full-time until I was just about to have #2, so I’m not really sure if I’d have been organized and tidy sans kids. Probably not. Right now, if I tried to do much more than the minimum cleaning I’d be doing nothing but cleaning and trying to get the baby to let me put her down so I could clean. Trying to do this makes me grumpy, and my kids blew a hole in my dreams of a schedule, so the house is usually a mess.

    Even though it’s not how it looks on Leave it to Beaver, I love it. Being with my kids, even when they’re making me half-crazy, is what I want. It’s harder than working outside the home in many ways, but for me it’s also better. I’d definitely recommend trying it if it’s something you feel called to do.

    Also, I have to rant a little that it drives me nuts when girls say they dream of raising babies and being homemakers and people condescendingly ask them “is that all? Really?” Being a homemaker and/or mom is a big thing in itself. Yes, there are many things these women COULD do, but choosing to stay home and take care of one’s family is a fine choice!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Jenny- I am glad that you choose happy kids over a messy house. In 10 years, they will remember that you spent time with them versus having a clean house!

    I 100% agree with your rant! When I was little, my mom would ask what I wanted to be when I grew up, and I always told her a mommy. She never made me feel like that was a bad thing. Then I went through high school and graduated 7th of 300+ in my class and everyone was like “you should be a doctor!” and I was like, but I don’t want to be :(

    Sometimes I wonder what it would have been like if I had gone that route.

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    H Lee D Reply:

    I completely 100% agree that happy kids are more important than a spotless house … but why isn’t a happy career more important than a spotless house?

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    H Lee D- I totally think a happy career is more important than a spotless house! I don’t think anyone should be unhappy. :) Great point!

  11. Evan says:

    Screw it, I’ll be the first male to enter the convo….

    My Wife wants to be a housewife when we have children, it has always been her goal and she is not shy about it. If the math behind it works out then sure I am fine with it.

    All that being said, I think you guys AS DO MOST PEOPLE are memorializing the yesteryear.

    I truly believe the good ole days were never as good as anyone wants to admit.

    http://www.myjourneytomillions.com/articles/good-ole-days-personal-finance/

    You had structural segregation until the mid 50s and then you just had cultural segregation. Just got out of a war, and another “conflict” was starting. Crazy Cold war stuff. Almost no one went to college. Everyone smoked. And seriously, who thought those white walled tires looked good LOL

    Just some thoughts from a punk kid

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    2 Cents @ Balance Junkie Reply:

    You’re brave to jump in on this sensitive issue Evan. Way to go! You’re right. The good ole days weren’t always so good. But I can tell you that being a homemaker today is not what it was in the 50′s.

    Today, it’s a choice and not a socially mandated norm based on the fact that the work is not appreciated and women were not seen as capable of “more”. Jenny is right. Raising the next generation of children in a healthy environment is very important and it takes a lot of the same skills as running a corporation.

    A working mother can accomplish that goal too, but I think it’s a lot harder on all involved depending on the situation. I think Moms and Dads need to decide what’s best for their children given each person’s talents and desires. Maybe Dad would rather manage the home front and Mom wants to work outside the home. Maybe one or both parents can afford to work part time.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Evan- I love that you were the first guy to comment. :) We are probably over romanticizing it. I’ll shoot for a sixties housewife. ;) LOL

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    Jen Reply:

    Thanks Evan, that’s exactly what I was thinking. It’s all a fantasy. Women back then worked very hard and often had no control over money. Kids were so much more well behaved back then because of lots of corporal punishment. The good old days weren’t all that.

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  12. Melissa says:

    I agree with Evan. The 50′s persona didn’t really exist for the most part. There is a misconception that the housewife didn’t work outside the home at that time when in reality many women took jobs that they could do from inside the home such as washing, ironing, mending etc. These jobs were just not recognized as a monetary contribution to the home environment and so were undervalued just as they are today.
    That being said, right now I am a SAHM with our first child who is 3 months old. I have it a little luckier though because we live in Canada so our government pays maternity benefits for a full year following the birth of a child if you have been working previously. I am not sure what will happen when the year is up, but right now I love it and wish I could do it long term. It makes me want to sew some ‘hostess style’ aprons :)

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Melissa- WOW! That is great that Canada does that. I am impressed! I am glad you are enjoying your time at home. :)

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  13. Little House says:

    I think that our society has put too much focus on material things, that’s why most couples have to work: to support their things! In the ’50′s, families were more frugal. They had to find a way to live off one income, the women took care of their families and were terrific homemakers. However, not all women wanted this life.

    It’s great that some people have the option of working, staying home with the kids, or a combo of both. But home makers aren’t revered for doing this. In our current society, they are sort of frowned upon and that is too bad. Maybe as our society shifts away from material things, this will become an acceptable option. We can only hope!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Little House- I agree. I think that people are totally materialistic now. I think it’s cool that people were more frugal back then.

    I hope that society does shift over to a more frugal minded place. If not, at least there are still some people that think that way. :)

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  14. Kacie says:

    I was a housewife before Johnny was born. Sure, I had some freelance projects that kinda counted as work, but really I was a homemaker.

    I still am.

    I wish more families valued homemakers. There needs to be more of us, I think.

    For me, it’s all about priorities. Yeah, we could probably have a really nice house right now if I had a job outside of the home. Instead, we’re making our apartment living work.

    But ya know — working outside the home did take its toll on me. I wasn’t efficient at home (and it’s not that I’m perfect now. I’m still working on it!). And I often resorted to more convenience items.

    It cost quite a bit of money to have me work, when I look at the big picture!

    There is more to life than “using your degree” or making money or moving up the career ladder.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Kacie- I admired that you stayed at home as a homemaker before having Johnny. I always thought that was really cool.

    I think there needs to be more value on homemakers that want to be homemakers.

    I know that I’m not very efficient at home when I am working 50+ hours a week. I’m exhausted when I come home and don’t want to do anything. Then I get stressed out because the house is a mess. It’s a bad cycle. Plus, I don’t want to cook and then end up eating some prepackaged crap that makes me feel bad.

    I should sit down and figure out how much it costs me to work. Not that I’m going to quit right away, but it would be interesting.

    “There is more to life than “using your degree” or making money or moving up the career ladder.”

    I love this!

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  15. Robert says:

    I think being a homemaker is fantastic for wives. I would much rather have my wife raise my children than a babysitter or daycare, plus it saves on those astronomical daycare fees. Life must have been much easier back then all around. These days, both mom and pop are sprinting out the door to get to work, so there’s no time for breakfast or lunch or anything else. Life is difficult on your own…a housewife who stayed home is a very important part of the family. I’m sad it’s gone.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Robert- I think that if it works for a family, that is great! I’m sad the time is gone too :(

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  16. Leonard says:

    I agree with Little House completely. Americans want way too many things to support a single-income lifestyle. We need two cars–why? To support two workers! We need daycare–why? To watch the kids while the mother works. We need to go out to eat and order in all the time–why? Because both spouses are too exhausted to make their own dinner. I think a better solution would be two people who each work part-time. Both get a career of their own and neither has to white knuckle it through the workweek.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Leonard- It’s a viscous cycle. I love the idea for two people to work part time! I hadn’t thought of that!

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  17. Sarah F says:

    I have been a homemaker for the past 3 years, and we don’t have kids yet.

    This wasn’t in my plans, but just how things worked out.

    No, in today’s society, it is not revered, and so for me, I can feel embarrassed when people ask “what I do”, and I tell them that I’m not working (outside the home) right now.

    I like to think of my staying home right now as on the job training- learning how to manage a home, finances, and cook before we start a family.

    It’s also allowed me to pursue different passions of my own, that I might otherwise not have time or energy for (knitting, and quilting).

    Also, being used to living on one income, it won’t be such a lifestyle change like it would be going from two to one income, when we have kids (Lord willing).

    With every “job”, there are pros and cons.

    This lifestyle can be difficult, and at times very isolating. I am seeking to be and do more, and through our photography side business that my husband and I are building, I hope to find that.

    Just wanted to add my 2 cents, some perspective from a modern day “housewife”.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Sarah- I think you are one of the rare women that is a housewife with no kids. I don’t mean that in a bad way at all though. :) I think it’s great you are doing that.

    I could totally see how you would feel embarrassed that you don’t “work” like most Americans. I would feel the same way. I am jealous that you have the time to do things you love like knitting and quilting. That adds so much value to your life!

    I think it’s important to have some type of outlet, like your photography. I think that’s a wonderful thing to do. Good luck with everything you decide to do!

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  18. H Lee D says:

    If you want to be a homemaker, good for you, but I don’t want to do it. The thought of doing tasks like cooking, cleaning, and budgeting all day is mind-numbing to me.

    Do I “need” to be working as many hours as I do? No, not necessarily, but the hours in public schools aren’t so flexible :) But my husband does his fair share of the housework (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.) which is not an accident — he knew before we got married that I was signing up to be his wife, not his maid and chef. So the amount of stuff that I have to do at home is less.

    If you can do it and like it and feel fulfilled, I think that’s great. And I think there shouldn’t be pressure/stigma on people (men or women) to work for money or keep house. But not every woman who isn’t doing it is running on a hamster wheel.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    H Lee D- I know that a lot of women wouldn’t like to be housewives and I understand that. I think we all need to do what makes us happy. :) That will make the world a better place.

    My husband works 12 hours a day so the responsibility is pretty much on me to take care of all the house duties. I’m okay with that though. It is hard sometimes because I work full time too and get tired, but it’s just what we’ve chosen. :)

    I really admire people who have careers/jobs that they love. I think there’s nothing better than being happy with what you do. My husband is a chef and 100% loves his job. I wish I had that.

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  19. My wife stays home. We made the mutual choice 10 years ago and it was for our children. Everyone has their own opinion but this is ours and in large part based on my experience.

    I was director of a childcare center. Day care centers can be a great place to learn social skills but in the end I believe kids need more attention and education than they can get when they are one of twelve.

    My wife has done a fabulous job raising our kids and taking care of me. The financial impact has been huge but it has been worth every penny.

    Housewife’s rock!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    LeanLifeCoach- That’s great! I respect everyone’s opinion. I don’t think that anyone is more or less of a person because they do or don’t work outside of the home. It’s such a personal decision.

    I am so glad it’s worked out well for you!

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  20. When our son was two – we made the decision to move across the country so my husband could take a corporate position. He had fantastic health benefits so we decided to become a one income family – which initially meant a $60k reduction in our income. We struggled for a few years financially, but our son flourished. Four years later, our daughter was born and I continued to be a full-time mom.

    Whether you call us stay-at-home moms or homemakers, never doubt that it isn’t a 24/7 full time position. We get paid in hugs and smiles. It may not pay the bills, but it sure does mean the world to me.

    I spend a lot of time at my kids’ schools – volunteering on a PTA Board and working in the classroom at the elementary level, as well as working in the media centers of both the elementary and middle schools. I love catching a glimpse of one of my kids in the halls – and seeing them smile. I love seeing my kids’ friends too. My kids are 13 and 9 and I think it is just as important now to be involved in their lives as it was when they were learning to walk and talk.

    Now, 11 years after I quit the workforce my husband and I go back and forth about when is the right time for me to return. I was fortunate enough through one of the school fundraiser organizations to grab a part-time data entry job (at home) for a couple years, but the economy caused a major downsizing this year.

    I still feel it is important to be home when the kids leave for school and come back through the door at the end of the day. I drive a 12 year old car and we both try to watch our finances. We are debt-free except for our mortgage and work very hard to stay that way. We are very fortunate that my husband’s job allows us to make this life choice. I recognize the sacrifices that he makes for our family and am eternally grateful to him.

    I can say without a doubt, that I wouldn’t choose to do anything different with my life than be a full-time mom to our wonderful kids. One day, I know I will have to return to work but until then I will cherish the moments I have with them.

    The house may not be as clean as it used to be – but our house is filled with laughter and love.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    SheSaid/HeSaid- I love your comment. I can only imagine all the sacrifices you’ve made over the years. I’m happy for what you have accomplished and I hope you are too! :)

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  21. Zella says:

    I love my job, and I am definitely not a homemaker, nor do I have any intention of ever becoming one. I am valued in what I do, and I love my career. Although I want kids, I have no intention of leaving behind something I value so highly, even for a few years.

    As for the hamster wheel comment, frankly, those comments annoy me. If you don’t find value in your job, you need to find another one. Maybe it’s being a homemaker, maybe it’s retail, or truck driving even.

    Also, I don’t find it difficult to get cleaning, cooking, etc. done, even when I have some busy weeks. I may do it at different times and days, and my floorboards may not shimmer, but the work gets done.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Zella- I respect the fact that you wouldn’t want to be a homemaker or stay at home with your kids. I think it’s fantastic that you are doing something you love! I agree- I think that everyone should do something they love.

    My baseboards are sometimes covered with dog hair. It’s just how it is. ;)

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  22. I’m a homemaker. I also have two degrees. I did work as a nurse for awhile when my kids were in elementary school but I missed being with them, quit my job and homeschooled (unschooled) them through high school. After my youngest finished high school everyone assumed I go back to work as an R.N. However, my husband and I both agree that having me at home makes our lives so much more peaceful.

    The key to not being bored and unfulfilled at home is to not just go through the motions, doing the bare minimum. I’ve developed a real love of cooking, for instance, and get a lot of satisfaction out of cooking delicious meals (I even started another blog just for food-related topics). I wouldn’t enjoy cooking if it only involved opening some boxes and cans, however.

    I also have time to pursue my own interests and hobbies and to learn new things. In addition, I have time to volunteer in ways that are meaningful to me and of service to others. It’s really hard for a woman working a full-time job and taking care of her home and family to find time for volunteer work so I feel like I’m providing a valuable service to my community.

    Ultimately, the decision is an individual one but having been on both sides of things, I would choose homemaking hands down.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Deanna- Wow, you are an RN and chose to stay home. That is great! :) I am sure your knowledge comes in handy every day with being a mom.

    That’s great you’ve learned to cook well. I need to learn how to cook better.

    I would love to be able to pursue some more hobbies and get things done that I’ve been putting to the side. That would be fantastic!

    I’m so glad it’s worked out for you! :)

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  23. I want to be a housewife so badly. There are so many things I want to do, and my job really cuts into that. Some days I wish I had the guts to just quit my job and see what I could do to make money at home. Great post, Mrs. Money.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Mrs. Accountability- Thank you so much! I hope that your dreams come true soon! :)

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  24. Jody says:

    Wife. Stay-at-home mom. Dishwasher. Cleaning lady. Laudress. Seamstress. Cook. That’s me. I couldn’t even begin to make a list of all the things that I do in a normal day. We have two children, ages 3 & 4, and that alone could count as a full time job!!! I was a school teacher before I married, but we decided that once we married I would become a housewife. I can’t even imagine being gone to work all day and then having to come home to do housework. Kudos to those of you who can do that and stay sane, but I know that I wouldn’t be one of those ladies. Sure, we likely have to cut corners that folks with a double income wouldn’t have to but I don’t think our children will ever know that. It’s worth it to us to be able to train our children the way we want them trained…not the way a day care would train them!!
    Good post….

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Jody- Wow! You are a busy woman. I know there are a lot of sacrifices that are made when a woman stays at home, but if they enjoy it, then it’s worth it. :)

    Thank you!

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  25. I think you’ve romanticized the 50′s a bit. Many housewives were bitterly unhappy because they didn’t want to be a full-time homemaker but it was nearly demanded by society.

    Women (and men) are better off today because they can chose whether to work outside the home and which person will do so.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Bucksome Boomer- Probably :) I am a very very good dreamer. lol The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. I do think it’s great that people can make choices on whether or not the want to stay at home. That’s invaluable!

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  26. Kelly says:

    I’m a stay at home mom, but I don’t consider myself a housewife. There was a point in my life when I aspired to that, but not anymore. It’s an idealized notion, and really I don’t have time for it! Kids in the 50s were mainly ignored, and women were treated very differently, so I wouldn’t want to go back to that era.

    Being at home is isolating and exhausting, but I still wouldn’t trade it for working full-time and trying to manage everything else.

    One thing that stinks though-if you have family, neighbors, or a husband that doesn’t understand what staying at home means, you may end up with all their errands.

    It’s a complex subject, I think! Great post.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Kelly- I think you are doing a great job! I think it will be interesting with what the future holds.

    Thanks! :)

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  27. Shery says:

    I come from a family in which almost none of the women work. And frankly, after being surrounded by housewives all my life, I can definetly say that this is NOT the way I wanna go. Don’t get me wrong; I’m in no way demeaning or undermining what happy housewives can and do. However, I’ve seen too many cases in which a housewife split from her husband after 20, maybe even 30 years. What are the odds of such a woman being able to fund herself? Pay her own bills? Find a job? Alamony doesn’t cover anything after the kids are old enough. And today, you can’t risk the statistics of happily ever after; divorce can hit you even fourty years down the road.

    So that’s one reason I never want to put myself in such a potentially dependable situation; the spouse might be able to pay for house cleaning services and use a laundramat, but the unemployed divorced housewife is gonna remain unemployed.

    Another reason (for me) is that I’m somewhat of a workhalic. I *love* to work. Between the choice of working and not, if income becomes irrelevant, I’ll always choose to work. I’m currently feeling like I’m dying inside because I can’t, due to a conflicting school schedule with almost any job available to me.

    A third reason is purely mental; I need to get out of the house, and not just to drive kids around. I like having an office that isn’t at home, and even if I woke up on the wrong foot, going out is what’s going to help me hop to theother one. Staying at home will make me (and thereby- everyone around me) want to make something go boom.

    And what I hate the most is that when I tell people that even if I do decide to have children at some random point in the future, I still wouldn’t stay at home, they question my feminity.

    Two faced world, plz.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Shery- I am so happy you love what you do! I think it is so important to be happy in your work.

    I think that every woman should have the choice to choose whether or not they stay at home with their kids. I agree- if it makes you happier to work, then that’s great! I don’t think anyone should make you feel bad that you want to work if you have kids. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. I think it’s a personal decision and people should accept that. :)

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  28. After my son was born, my wife quit working and raised him and my daughter. Now that my daughter is in half day kindergarden, she work 8 hours a week (split between 2 days).

    She told me she loved it! She really enjoys being a mom! the only down fall is that our net worth would have been almost a million if she would have kept working, click here to check out my article if you interested!

    Overall though, I’m happy with the way my kids are turning out.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Money Reasons- I think that’s great your wife loves it! I know that there will be a definite income loss, but if it works for the family and everyone is happy, I think it’s worth it. :) I am so glad you and your wife value her time as a stay at home mom. :)

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  29. Corrie says:

    I work part-time, but consider myself a homemaker, too. I just love my job as much as I love my home.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Corrie- That is fantastic! I love to hear that people love their jobs. That’s how it should be. :)

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  30. Holly says:

    I am a SAHM and my kids are 14, 12, and 9. I can honestly say that I have chosen to stay at home because my mother was a nurse; she was always sleeping the days away and grouchy or simply disinterested in the goings-on w/the family.

    I ended up getting in some trouble while noone was looking and eventually, my parents divorced (I have been married now for 3 years longer than my parents were). I decided that would give up the career (temporarily) for the sake of making sure my kids always had me to guide them.

    Even though I sometimes wish I could be making $60000/yr. like my sis, I know that I have made the right choice. I feel fortunate that I was able to spend this time w/my children. My husband says, “I’ll work the first 20, you can work the next 20.” Fine w/me, ’cause he’ll have to deal w/the teenagers! LOL

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Holly- I’m so sorry to hear that :( I think you are doing the right thing if it makes you and your family happy! And definitely let your hubby deal with the teenagers! ;)

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  31. Joyce says:

    Well be careful what you wish for. I worked all my life until taking early retirement. Now I’m stuck with the housecleaning and no one wants to help out even on mother’s day or my birthday. I have thought about leaving seriously leaving. So good luck to all of you who think it’s a fairy tale. I’d rather be working for money dearies.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Joyce- I am so sorry to hear that :( I would definitely help you if I was close enough! xoxo

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  32. Debra Tincher-Graves says:

    I am with you, I am now 53 going on 54 and I just quit working last year to fulfill my life lone dream of being a “50″ housewife/homemaker. I love it and I don’t know how I found time to work. My husband love it too and my schedule is just as you and created …. Monday is laundry day ( I make my own laundry soap) and I hang my laundry outside the smell is unbelievable and lasts for weeks on the sheets. Tuesday is Ironing day so I pop in one of my retro movies and Iron ( love it) I bake, sew, learning to crochet, needlework. I keep the budget, run errand exercise, keep us on a diet. I am not so stressed and I am in a good mood all the time. I love the feeling. I am that 50′s homemaker and I take very good care of my husband I fix him breakfast, pack his lunch and always have dinner ready. We don’t have a big house but it’s ours and I love taking care of it. I just wish I was 20 starting out with my husband as a homemaker. I have alway worked outside the home and great job, but nothing beat this job. I have a garden and I can food…God I love being a homemaker. you might have to give up the best car or even the big house but, what you gain is well worth it. Oh by the way if you do this whole thing right you will never be board.

    Best of Luck

    deb

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