Stop Whining, Start Doing Something!

Posted by Mrs Money on January 11th, 2010

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Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with my life. I feel like I have so many things going on at once: I want to move, have a baby, and quit my job.  Not necessarily in that order though!  I have all these dreams and hopes for the future and I feel that my life is not very exciting nor how I thought it would be when I was 26.  Rather than continue to whine and feel sorry for myself,  I’m going to be proactive in making decisions.  I need to plan out exactly what needs to happen so that we can attain our goals.

Moving

If we really are going to sell our house, there are a few things we need to get in order before we do so. I think the absolute first step will be having our realtor come over to assess what he thinks the property is worth. If he thinks we’re going to lose a lot of money on the house, that will nix the idea of moving altogether.  I don’t want to lose a ton of money on this house.

We also need to finish up some projects around the house: add some quarter round to the living room that got the laminate flooring, maybe replace the stove with a stainless steel one like the dishwasher and fridge, and just some small touch ups around the house. Hopefully nothing big!  The funny thing is now that we’ve been here almost three years and gotten a lot of projects done, I am emotionally attached to this home and kind of don’t want to leave!

Expanding our Family

I think this one needs to be put on hold for a little while until we decide if we’re moving, what’s going on with our jobs, etc. While I feel like we’ve been putting this on hold for years now, another six months or so really won’t kill us and we’ll be that much more prepared to bring a child into this world, however we decide to do so.

Job

I think I’m going to give it six months with my new position. If things aren’t better, I will make a change. I don’t know what that change will be, but I think that if I gave up now I’d be doing so too early. I think six months is a fair assessment.

I’m going to work on making myself happy.  I’m going to be proactive in seeking the happiness, not waiting for it to come to me.  I need to remember that life is supposed to be fun, not a chore.

What do you do when life overwhelms you?

image from Nicholas Valentin

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13 Responses to “Stop Whining, Start Doing Something!”


  1. 2 Cents says:

    I pretty much do what you’re doing. I identify areas of my life where I feel uncomfortable, write out a few possible actions to take for each, and then put those actions in some kind of order.

    Taking some more time to think about it is usually an option for at least one area, but I try to act on the other things, even if it’s only one at a time.

    Any action is better than feeling like you’re spinning your wheels all the time!

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  2. Mrs Money says:

    2 Cents- it’s amazing how much better I feel coming up with a plan. I think that when I realize I can change things it is so powerful! :)

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  3. i like the title of your post – but it sounds like you’re taking a bit of a ‘wait and see’ attitude w/r/t your family and your job. Is there anything that brings you joy right now? Perhaps it would help you to focus on that joyful thing, find ways to expand it, dive into it, incorporate it into the other areas of your life. Or pick up some new fun thing just for you, something silly and non-serious that will make you laugh. Ask yourself, ‘what – that is within my control – will make X a happier/better experience for ME?’ You’re helping a lot of people with your blog, don’t forget to focus on your needs!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    ami@40daystochange- I am going to focus on bringing joy into my life and really working on getting a good plan in place so I can get pregnant. I really enjoy writing so it’s awesome I can share my thoughts here and get such good feedback. I’ve been busy working on my blog lately and enjoy this tremendously.

    I’ve also considered making soap and selling it like through etsy. That’s something fun to me. Ultimately I’d love to do enough things like this to be able to make enough money through them, not to replace my day job, but so that I could at least go part time at work. If I’m doing something I love and making less money than I am now, so be it. :)

    I appreciate your comment about me helping people with my blog. That means a lot. :)

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  4. Karen says:

    Wow. It sounds like we’re in absolutely the same place!

    It always helps me to try to set my priorities. Figure out what’s most important to you, and focus on that first. If having a baby sooner rather than later is your top priority, you can make your decisions about everything else based on that. If finding a career or location that makes you happy is more important to you than starting a family at the moment, then focus on that.

    I find it’s a lot easier to break goals up into smaller pieces. But it always seems like life hits you with everything at once, doesn’t it?

    Don’t beat yourself up too much about the whining. Sometimes we need a little time to wallow. :)

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    It totally does! I said that I feel like I’ve got so many huge decisions to make now. One one hand I want to move to Michigan to be close to my family, but on the other hand there are so many variables (unemployment up there, housing market, etc) that it scares me and I just want to keep my house here and be happy!

    I just feel like if I don’t make the right decisions now I’ll regret it later. They’re huge changes too, and of course that makes me nervous.

    I am very good at whining. :) We can whine together. I’ll bring the cheese and merlot.

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  5. Kacie says:

    Setting deadlines for yourself is a fantastic idea! So, sometime this summer, you’ve gotta act on these things. I’ll remind ya :)

    Also, I like your blog header!

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  6. Kacie says:

    Oh, and when are you going to have your realtor over? Do it soon!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Kacie- Thanks! I think it’s much cuter than the old one, don’t you? I think it’s more me!

    I know I’ve got to make these decisions soon. That way I’ll get them off my chest!

    The realtor called my hubby today and hopefully he will be coming over this week! I’ll be sure to let you know. :)

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  7. Little House says:

    When I become overwhelmed, I jot down a list of pros and cons. Right now, I’m waffling on continuing my education. My husband helped me determine that I’ll continue this semester, and take next semester off. At that time,I’ll be able to better gauge if continuing is a good idea or if I need to post-pone my teaching credential. (I already have a BA, but thought a teaching credential would land me a job –prospects aren’t looking so good due to crappy economy!)

    I’m constantly reevaluating what I’m doing and what direction to go in. As long as I end up some place happy, it’s usually all good. :)

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Little House-

    “As long as I end up some place happy, it’s usually all good. :)” LOVE THIS. This is the best comment!

    I am going to focus on being happier. Let’s be happy together!

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  8. We can always do something positive. Like stop making the same mistakes year after year. Take action, not just talk.

    John DeFlumeri Jr

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