Selling Yourself

Posted by Mrs Money on March 11th, 2010

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Our Yurt
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Day after day, I dream of selling my house, buying some land in the woods, and living in a cabin, yurt, or tiny house. Yet day after day I continue the lather, rinse, repeat that is my life. Wake up, go to work, work, come home, clean, go to bed.  Often times I feel like my life is unfulfilled; rather, my job is unfulfilled, but it pays really well and I know what I am doing (for the most part).

Sometimes I feel like the biggest sell out.

I think that one of the best reasons to be frugal is to be able to live on less and have time to do things we love, yet personally I am not able to walk the walk as much as I talk the talk.  I work this job that is okay, not something I’m in love with, but I do it for the money and the benefits.

I’ve been thinking about going part time for awhile, and then I sit down and figure out how much money I could be making rather than staying at home doing whatever. If I did go part time, chances are I’d take about an $8 an hour pay cut, plus the hours that would be decreased, and then I’d probably feel like I gave up something I shouldn’t have.  I’ve decided to make the best of it currently, and do my best at work and keep paying off debt and saving money for the future.

That doesn’t mean that I still don’t dream of my cabin in the woods, or living in an rv and traveling full time.  It just means that I’m working towards being able to do that one day, hopefully sooner than later.

Do you ever feel like a sell out?  How do you combat living your dreams versus being realistic?

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19 Responses to “Selling Yourself”


  1. One of my favorite quotes from Dave Ramsey is
    “live like no one else….so later you can LIVE LIKE NO ONE ELSE”

    The idea is to practice frugality and make sacrifices now so that later you can have some breathing room because you’ve built wealth and are financially stable.

    The balance of frugality is an art. Somethings are sacrifices, but others are priorities.

    You should keep dreaming of your cabin in the woods! That will keep you driving towards something. With that in place execute a plan to get there! Set milestones so you can determine rather you are moving forward or in the same place.

    Best wishes!
    Kita

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Lakita- I should print that quote for encouragement. :) I love that!

    It’s hard sometimes, to keep being frugal when you want to give up. I’m going to have to keep my dreams as my goals!

    Thanks so much for your kind comment. It makes me feel better :)

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  2. This was exactly my life up until December, when I quit my soul destroying, well paid, job. Before that I/we lived frugally, paid off all my debt and reduced our outgoings so that we could live on one income.

    I spent every day dreaming of escape to a different land and it’s only now that I realise it wasn’t the country I wanted to escape from, it was just that job. Now I dream of moving abroad but not in a ‘it must happen tomorrow way’ but in a good way – I hope that makes sense?!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Laura- I am still in the process of paying off debt but I can see the end in sight so that feels awesome!

    After we get our car loan paid off, I’d like to live off my hubby’s income and save mine if possible.

    I think one of the reasons I want to get away from here is because we used to live in Colorado and it is so beautiful there! I just feel amazing when we’re there. I’m going to keep being frugal and I know that it will get me where I need to go. :) Thanks so much for your kind words!

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  3. Hmm. . .I’m sad that you feel that way! I’ve certainly been there too. I had a few jobs that drove me nuts that I kept for the high pay when DH and I were planning our move to France. Is that selling out? Should we have just hopped the pond with no savings and lived out of backpacks? How long would that have felt satisfying to us? (Would our marriage have suffered??) Then again, there is a balance, we could have stayed in the US longer and saved up more money before moved. . . at some point, we had to decide that enough was enough.

    There is a difference between differing pleasure and selling out! Maybe you could come up with a plan for what you want to do and where you want to be so that you can remind yourself why you keep at the job you’re at right now . . .and for how long you intend to do it. Seriously, I’m going to be mulling this one over. It sounds like another good topic for a post!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Simple in France- It has gotten better, so I am happy! At the same time, I just feel like this isn’t my calling.

    I know where I want to be and my husband knows too. :) We’re working towards that. I should keep that in mind! Thanks so much for your comment. :)

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  4. I’m with Simple in France. If you have a plan – if there is a reason for the frugality, then it’s not suffering for the sake of suffering but part of the great Master plan. Similarly, if staying in a job that pays well helps you move faster towards your ultimate goal, then it’s not selling out, it’s part of the plan.

    But you have to have a Master Plan for all the justification to stick :)

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    ami- Thanks! I think if I write down a master plan, that will help. We can keep working towards that!

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  5. Priscilla says:

    I have been feeling like I’ve sold at as well…
    I just keep reminding myself that the job I am currently at is a “means to an end” if you will, towards my goal of: marrying my fiance, moving to alaska :), and ideally working free-lance from there on out.

    My plan and man are my driving forces towards frugality, regardless, a girl can dream, can’t she?

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Priscilla- I love your goals! They all sound fabulous to me! I am such a dreamer and my husband is not. Sometimes I feel like the weird one. :)

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  6. Little House says:

    I sometimes feel the same way, but in my case it’s saving for a down payment. Here I am blogging about my financial frugalities (I think I just made up this word!) and I’m really struggling to save more than just a few hundred dollars here and there.

    Part of my problem is that this year I’ve made less than I have over the last few years (I guess that recession has finally caught up with me!). But another problem is that I really need to commit, and make my husband commit, to cutting WAY back on expenses. Even if that means moving to a less expensive place. I guess I need to push harder!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Little House- I know, sometimes I feel like that too.

    We made less in 2009 than in 2008 as well. Blah! I agree- we can always push a little harder. :) It’s good to know I’m not alone though!
    xoxo

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  7. BibleDebt says:

    Keep heading towards being debt free! So many options will open up for you when you don’t have to transfer your money into someone else’s pockets every month. Not to mention, you will be earning the interest, instead of someone else getting ahead off from your hard work.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    BibleDebt- Thanks for the words of encouragement! I am so close to being debt free I can taste it! ;)

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  8. ctreit says:

    This is one good-looking and sturdy yurt. I don’t know if I wanted to live in a yurt like this, but I know that I would move to a particular spot in Latin America if I wanted to leave the hassles of daily life here. I got the funny feeling though that no matter where you are and what you do, life can always be viewed as a hassle.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    ctreit- I know! Isn’t it awesome?! I agree- I think that there are going to be hassles no matter what. :)

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  9. I sure feel this way a lot at my job. I am so aggravated and annoyed much of the time by the way things are done (wrong, imho). One thing I know, when it’s time, you’ll know it’s time. And then you’ll make your move.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Mrs. Accountability- I’m sorry you feel that way :( I know that it stinks!

    I am trying to be positive now. I know what my ultimate goal is, and I need to realize the steps we need to take to get there. I think we’re doing fine right now, and I should be happy with that. :)

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