Not the Time for Fantasies


84554163Now is not the time for fantasies. With the horrible economy, housing market, and environmental issues, it’s not the time to be dreaming of moving or radically changing your life. Or is it?

I think I’ve made it pretty clear that I am homesick and want to move closer to my family. I think before we actually have a baby I want to be near my family for support and so they can experience it as well. Unfortunately, they live in Michigan, and we all know that is the worst state for unemployment right now. So what do we do?

I’m the type of person that is always wishing and dreaming. I’m envisioning a house on land, my own little homestead with many animals and environmentally friendly. I’d love to build a “green” house. Mr. Money sometimes tells me I need to just enjoy the things I have and not wish for other things. But I tend to disagree- without fantasies, life is boring.

I’ve been down in the dumps lately and I think it’s partly due to the fact we’re going into winter, and partly due to the fact that I’ve spent so much time with my family lately that I am dying to be living back there. The thought of moving back there and having Mr. Money on board gets me really excited. I dream of him finding a job at a good restaurant in Ann Arbor, buying a house and fixing it up or building a small dream house, and just living happily ever after. The only thing is- reality sets in sometimes and squashes my dreams.

While I’m a dreamer, I’m also a realist (or maybe a pessimist!) and I think about all the things that could go wrong and how silly I am for even entertaining the thought about moving to Michigan. I should be grateful that we both have good jobs with benefits and can comfortably live right now when so many people are struggling. So many things could go wrong and we could lose so much money if we decided to try to sell our house soon and move up there. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place.

What do you think- is now the time for fantasies?

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6 thoughts on “Not the Time for Fantasies

  1. Deirdre says:

    I’m confused – why does it have to be either/or? Is he actively looking for a job in Anne Arbor? Are you? There’s no reason not to start the process while you’re continuing your current life….


    Mrs Money Reply:

    I am pretty sure I could transfer up there with my job. We need to start actively looking for a job for him up there. I think in the spring we’ll start aggressively looking. 🙂


  2. Miss M says:

    I’m a dreamer, always have been. But mine are the impossible type, mere flights of fancy. As for real life, I’d just like a better version of the present. I’d like us to be more secure, and not underwater! I’m living where I always wanted to, though I would prefer a better neighborhood. I wish I liked my job more, but I don’t hate it.

    I can’t imagine a life without dreams, but I wouldn’t simply throw away a good thing. If you want to move, you can make it happen. Put a plan together, running off on a whim isn’t prudent no matter the economy. Set a goal to move home and start working towards it.


    Mrs Money Reply:

    I am glad that you don’t think I am crazy! I love dreaming and want to do everything to make my dreams come true!


  3. Mrs. Accountability says:

    What you really ought to do is have Mr. Money OPEN HIS OWN RESTAURANT! Just think of the options there! Then you wouldn’t be dependent on him *finding* a job, instead finding a little place to open. I’m sure he’s a fantastic cook and he could probably fill some niche. Maybe the two of you could work together? Maybe you could be the hostess?


    Mrs Money Reply:

    He would LOVE to do that! He wants to open a barbecue restaurant. I think that if we did do that, that I’d probably keep my job so that we’d have benefits. I can transfer up there. 🙂


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