I’m going to share something very personal, and I hope that you will respect the decision I made at the time, and not tell me what a bad decision I made. I just hope someone can learn from this.
In December, a friend came to me, crying because they were behind on their mortgage due to some uncontrollable circumstances. I was very understanding, went through all the options I could think of with her, and then after she told me that she had done everything she could think of and exhausted her family members, she didn’t know who else to turn to. And if she didn’t make her two months’ worth of mortgage payments that they would be served a foreclosure notice right before Christmas and she, her husband, and two children would be out of a home.
So I lent her $1500 and made the mortgage payments for her because she’s my best friend, and that’s what best friends do if they are able to.
The agreement was that she would pay me back in January when she got a check from financial aid. I was fine with that because I’ve known them for 8 years and they are honest people. If I didn’t lend them the money, could I be okay with them being out on the streets? Probably not.
Well, January came, and she didn’t end up getting the financial aid, so she said they’d pay me back when they got their tax return. They came down to visit me in February, said they’d bring the check, and then forgot to give it to me while they were down here. So the last three weeks I’ve spent bugging her about when they sent the check. I can understand that you forget to mail it for a few days. But after three weeks, that’s just ridiculous. And now I need the money and I’ve expressed that to her. She’s ignoring me.
I’m hurt and angry beyond words. I never thought that someone that was my best friend would do this to me. It makes me sick. It has put so much stress and anxiety on me that I spent the whole night in tears. I just feel so betrayed. I just want my money back.
I guess it boils down to never let friends or family borrow money. I should have thought about that before hand. My gut told me to do it, but my head told me not to.
There’s a chance that I’m blowing this all out of proportion and I receive the check in the mail tomorrow. I really hope that is the case, but I’m not holding my breath. What hurts is that she’d be willing to toss away 8 years of friendship over this. I hope that she does come through and I get my money back and can be happy.
Please, if you learn anything from this, just don’t let people borrow money. It’s just not a good idea.