Since November, three of my family members have been in and out of the hospital. First my dad had hernia surgery and stayed at the hospital for a few days. Then he developed complications once he was home so he went back for a second surgery to correct a hematoma. Next, my mom developed diverticulitis and spent a few days in the hospital. After she went home, she discovered that she had a very dangerous infection called “C. diff” and had to go back to the hospital for about a week. While this all was going on, my sister had to have surgery for what they found to be a tumor on her ovary (she’ll be fine, thank goodness) and spent the night overnight at the hospital. So that totals five separate hospital visits for three family members.
My mom called yesterday, saying that my dad’s blood pressure was low and that his brother was taking him to the hospital. Needless to say, they kept him overnight and today we found out he’s got about four things wrong with him including some infection. My mom is still healing from her bout in the hospital, so she’s not really able to help take care of things around the house, and she’s not able to go be with my dad.
At this point, I feel really helpless because I live too far away and am working full time so it’s not like I can just up and leave and go help them. I want to be there to help cook and clean, but right now it just doesn’t seem possible. I’ve been considering quitting my job to go help take care of them. While this sounds like a great idea, I just don’t think it’s a wise choice right now. Then I wonder if I’m just being too crazy because we’ll be losing my income and family should come first, not money. So I’m torn.
Positives of Quitting
-I’d be able to go up and stay with my parents as long as I needed to with no pressure from my employer. If I need to stay up there a month, fine. If I need to stay two months, that works too.
-I’d be able to focus on things I love and work towards making those my full time job. I’d love to make money blogging, selling soap, and maybe even finishing my e-book and selling it. I’d be free to do as I pleased, and do things I would love after I got done taking care of my parents.
Negatives of Quitting
-We’d lose my health insurance from work. We’d have to look into finding private health insurance, which could be very expensive and most likely won’t cover pregnancy. This would create stress.
-I wouldn’t have a job and consistent income once I was done taking care of my parents.
-It probably would take me awhile to get used to not going to work every day. I’d probably miss the interaction with people.
So, I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. I want to be there to help my parents, but I just don’t know if it makes sense for me to quit my job.
What do you think I should do? Is it silly I am even considering quitting my job?