I Think I Hate my Job

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I think I hate my new job. I don’t know if it’s necessarily that I don’t like the position, but I’m having a hard time going to work lately. I just don’t want to go and I have copious amounts of anxiety about it. It’s really not fun.

I think part of the problem is that I went from being the office manager of my branch to being on the teller line which almost feels like a demotion. When I was the office manager, I sat at a desk all day and opened accounts, serviced customers, and worked on loans. Now I’m running transactions and providing customer service. Don’t get me wrong; I like it, but I think I feel like it’s a step down. To make matters worse, my coworker is now at the desk and I’m at the teller line and it’s almost degrading.

I’m very thankful that my pay didn’t get cut and that I got to keep my job, but I’m almost wondering if I should have asked to be transferred to another location. I almost think that it may be better. Then again, I do enjoy the location, hours, and clientele that is at my current branch. So I’m stuck. I’m totally not loving what I do right now.

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

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24 thoughts on “I Think I Hate my Job

  1. FuturShoc says:

    I had a very similar situation about this time last year.

    I had been working at a job for exactly 10 years and the company treated me pretty well. I had worked my way up in the IT department and advanced twice and was about to gain a 3rd week of vacation. However, my commute was two hours a day, round trip.

    I was offered a position at a local bank in my city, just 5 minutes from my house. It came with lots of additional benifits, a great career opportunity and better pay to boot. But the biggest bonus was being able to spend more time with my daugher because I’d no longer have the commute.

    So, I took it.
    And just two weeks into the new job, I had a gut feeling it was a huge mistake.
    The similarity with your situation begins when I was introduced to the existing IT team at the bank. The guy who ran its IT systems was 6 years younger than I am (I’m 35). I felt like the job had been a demotion because I had 10 years of IT experience, yet I was having to be partly bossed around by this ‘kid’. (At least, that what I felt he was at the time.)

    In the end, I lost the job due to some major re-organization of upper management after exactly 6 months. (Though I was given a different reason for termination, I knew it was a cover. My boss and *his* boss were also terminated in the months following.)

    Thankfully, I was able to get back on at my old job, though I’ve now lost much of what I had earned in seniority in my previous 10 years here.

    In this economy, though, I can’t complain alot about that. It stinks, but I’m still lucky, all things considered.

    So, I feel you when it comes to moving into a new position that feels a little like a demotion.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Thanks for sharing your story! I think that is my biggest problem with the position now. I think I’m going to try to work through it and give myself a deadline, say 6 months. If I’m miserable in 6 months then I will definitely do something else. I don’t want to lose my seniority either πŸ™

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  2. Evan says:

    Why not get your resume out there? See what is available – you may find that you have it pretty good

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    I have my resume out there on careerbuilder and monster. I’ll have to update it.

    I think I’m going to give myself a set amount of time to make a decision. If I’m not happy in 6 months then I’ll definitely get out. πŸ™‚

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  3. 2 Cents says:

    In the end, the decision is yours. When I’m unsure about anything, I usually avoid making a decision. I mull it over for as long as it takes to arrive at a conclusion that feels right. In this job market, best not to shoot yourself in the foot.

    Good luck!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    I agree. I think sometimes I get caught up in things and too emotional. I’ll give it about 6 months and if I don’t like it still, I’m sure there will be other openings. I could post for a different branch or position. Thanks for your kind comments!

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  4. This Mama Works It! says:

    I love my job but it is not my life. As I am sure yours is not either. So when I find that my job is bringing me down I just remember that I am going to work to provide for my family. The real love is when I get home and I can be at my house with my family. But….if I got to the point were I was feeling anxiety or stress about it I would probably ask for a transfer or look for a new job. But really if you did not get a pay cut I would not worry to much about it. That is just my opinion though. Good luck!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Thank you! That is a great point. I’m working to provide for my family. πŸ™‚ Work is not my life. I am going to use that as my new mantra!

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  5. jmanna says:

    Have you done the old ‘Pros/Cons’ list thing? It sounds simplistic but it helps me flesh out the details of a decision. A pro would be ‘Steady Paycheck’. A con would be ‘Added Stress’. Balance the value of your paycheck against the value of your sanity while being honest with yourself. Maybe it is time to move on.

    I think deadlines are a great idea. Maybe keep some kind of record of your days and re-read it at the end of the month. If it sounds like it’s getting worse or you seem so very unhappy, start actively looking.

    You may also have to face the fact you’re ruining your day with your own perceptions. If you are getting the same pay and benefits then is it really a demotion?

    If you truly feel slighted, consider a discussion with your superior. Keep positive about how you enjoy working with customers and love working for the company but feel demotivated to have lost your primarily desk/administrative job. Maybe talk about some kind of development plan that will move your career forward to something more satisfying for you. Companies love the concept of employee loyalty. The smart companies encourage their employees to grow and become more valuable while staying with the company.

    The general demeanor of your superior will tell you a lot. If they’re positive and upbeat and seem to be following along with the plan you’ve created together after 6 months then yay! You’re lucky enough to work for a supervisor who cares about you and your career. If you get any hesitation and nothing moves forward, face the fact you’ve reached a dead end and start a very quiet job search.

    Whatever you do: DO NOT OPENLY COMPLAIN and keep a happy front. Sounds like idiot advice right? So many folks have a very hard time hiding their unhappiness and coworkers can be perceptive. It will just cause you more problems and stress if your superiors label you as disgruntled.

    I’ve had a string of really awful jobs in the last few years. Some things I did to help ease the stress were:

    Make the most of breaks: Get away from your work environment. Go for a walk, sit in your car. Find a secluded nook of the office you don’t usually frequent and listen to music. Anything. Just get away from the environment that reminds you of the stress.

    Exercise: Go home and play Dance Dance Revolution until you’re exhausted. Walk, run, tickle fight with a loved one. Physical activity and the endorphins it releases will counter act the stress.

    Psych yourself out: This sounds insane but smile no matter how you feel. Use a happy voice. Laugh. Now watch that you don’t lay it on too thick or you’ll come across mad as a hatter. If you need inspiration and you’re allowed to have personal affects at your station, find silly little pictures that make you giggle when you see them (LOLCats and Cute Overload are great for that) and put them in a little frame you can take with you at the end of the day. (I’m guessing your workspace is shared?)

    Create a routine when you get home that ‘cleanses’ you of the work day: Change your clothes completely. Shower. Mediate. Exercise. Anything to help set some kind of definitive mental barrier between the stressful work life and your home life. And I will say from experience, the drive home isn’t always enough. Traffic is stressful too.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    jmanna- I haven’t done the pros/cons list yet. That is something I’ll have to work on this weekend. I really like the idea of keeping a record of my days. I think that would be very helpful!

    “You may also have to face the fact you’re ruining your day with your own perceptions. If you are getting the same pay and benefits then is it really a demotion?” I 100% agree here. I think a lot of my problem is that one of the employees thinks she’s above me now because she’s at the desk and I’m on the teller line. That’s a lot of my stress. I need to just step up to the plate and be a leader.

    I love all the other tips you’ve given me! I am going to work on incorporating a lot of them into my day. I’m thinking that if I don’t let it get to me as much that will be helpful. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving your comments! I truly appreciate them!

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  6. ami@40daystochange says:

    I agree with the suggestions given to keep up a positive attitude AND to look around. I’d suggest that if you have an opportunity to jump ship, make sure the opportunity brings you closer to your dream arrangement (and isn’t just another frying pan or fire to jump into). That’s how a former colleague of mine at the Big Company did it – and he’s now in his dream job. (I posted his story at http://wp.me/pEVt5-4r)

    Alternatively, sometimes you strike it lucky and an internal attitude adjustment leads to the dream – at your current employer. That happened for another client of my life coach. So long as you keep moving towards the dream, rather than away from the nightmare, you’ll get it, eventually. Good luck!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    ami- I think that I’m going to work on my outlook. I’m going to make this a job I like. I might not necessarily LOVE it, but I’ll like it. πŸ™‚ Hopefully other things will fall in place soon and I can achieve more dreams! πŸ™‚ Thanks for the support.

    xoxo

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  7. Ryan @ Planting Dollars says:

    What would you love to do if you didn’t have to worry about money?

    I also think if you’re considering if you hate your job, you most likely do. I would keep exploring your passions further through weekend work or hobbies to see what else is possible. If you continue down this path where do you see it leading in 5 or 10 years versus where you’d like to be?

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Ryan- I think I would work with kids. Ultimately after we have kids I want to stay at home so I wouldn’t mind watching another child at the same time. πŸ™‚ I am going to have to keep my eyes on the prize!

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  8. Bucksome says:

    I know what it’s like to have a job you hate. When that happened to me I just hung in there while looking for a better opportunity.

    It eventually came and in the meantime, I was making a living. Good luck!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Bucksome- I think I’m going to hang in there and get my ducks in a row to achieve my dreams. There’s no sense in just waiting for them to happen. I’m going to make it happen! πŸ™‚ Thank you!

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  9. Cheryl says:

    I feel for you with your job, eventually things will get better!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Cheryl- Thank you! I am hoping things get better soon. πŸ™‚

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  10. Robert says:

    Sorry you’re dealing with this. It is a tough situation. I believe everyone should have more than one stream of income. A job is one stream. Whether you make a change or not I would advise creating more streams of income. When they start taking off maybe you could leave all together.

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Robert- I’m trying to do that! I would love to make money blogging and making and selling soap. That would rock. I’ve just got to keep plugging away at it. πŸ™‚ Thanks so much for your kind words!

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