Finding Contentment With What You Have

Posted by Mrs Money on November 28th, 2012

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I had to unsubscribe from the feed of one of my favorite home decorating blogs this morning.  I’ve been reading it for years, but lately I’ve noticed that their pictures of beautiful rooms and neat projects was making me feel like my house was greatly inferior.  Years ago I was embarrassed of my house, and while the feeling is still there sometimes, for the most part I am proud of how I’ve fixed up and decorated.  It really feels like home now, and I love the size and layout.  I have such a hard time reading blogs and looking at pictures online and not comparing them to my house.  It’s hard to picture the houses not picture-perfect (and I’m sure that most of the houses aren’t immaculate all the time).  I realized that by reading all these house blogs I was setting unrealistic expectations of my own house and had to change something.  It was stressing me out when anything in my house was out of place or dirty.  With Penny, it’s harder for me to do things than in used to be, and I’d rather spend time with her than spend all my days cleaning.

I’ve also noticed the more time I spend on Pinterest, the more I feel overwhelmed and not good enough.  I see all these pictures of beautiful, perfect birthday parties for kids and think of how I want Penny’s birthday to be perfect.  However, I know as long as we’re spending the day with her I know it will it be perfect.  I really don’t need to spend hundreds on decorations for her to have a good birthday.

The fact is, I need to learn to be content with what I have, especially now that Mr. Money is unemployed.  I need to stop making lists of everything in my house that I would like to upgrade and just be happy with how it is.  I have to stop comparing things to others, because a lot of things online aren’t really how they are in real life.  I’ve got a great house, beautiful family, and a lot to be thankful for.  I’ll be focusing on that instead of thinking of all the things I’d like to have.  That should help me find some contentment with what I have.  At this point, as long as all of our family has all of our needs met, I’ll be happy.  I can’t ask for much more than that.

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12 Responses to “Finding Contentment With What You Have”


  1. Terry says:

    How can one be content if they are underperforming the expectations of their family (parents etc)?

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Terry- I think as long as you are happy, that is the most important thing! I think sometimes you have to not worry about what other people think (as hard as that is!).

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  2. Kacie says:

    It really is easy to be overwhelmed by Pinterest or blogs. I’ve had to unsubscribe from some, too. Nobody’s house is perfect, even on those blogs!

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    Kacie- I agree. It is so hard when you see pictures of someone’s perfectly decorated and clean house! Mine is NOT like that!

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  3. frugal expat says:

    Sometimes when I am down, I simply think of my loving family, my little boy, and how grateful I am as we are all healthy and safe.

    Just that thought makes me richer..

    Cheers

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    frugal expat- I completely agree! I feel so blessed that we have Penny and that we are all healthy that I figure we can get through whatever else life throws at us!

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  4. cavewoman says:

    Comparing yourself to the Joneses really is a path to frustration. Even when what you have is plenty wonderful.

    Isn’t is a curiousity of human nature that we do that? We are quirky things.

    I find that if I take a break from media ( t.v., facebook, etc), for a week or so….and plan to take a walk more regularly or spend more time with friends that I do a lot better. My attitude improves greatly.

    Glad that you have found a way to improve your happiness.

    Oh—and for the fun of it ( do google “happiness jars Elizabeth Gilbert” ). You will see a fun way that folks are reminding themselves of their blessings.

    (:

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    Mrs Money Reply:

    cavewoman- I think that is a good idea. I should take a Facebook and internet break…

    You are always full of wisdom and I truly appreciate your comments. <3

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  5. Liquid says:

    There’s no point to compare myself others because no one in the entire world can do a better job of being me than myself :0) I think just taking a look around what’s happening in the rest of the world right now can make anyone realize how lucky they are if they have a home, a family, decent health, and a safe environment to live in :D

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  6. What a really helpful reminder.. I guess as long as you are well aware of that tendency, there is no harm if the aim is just gather some rich ideas. It provides future benefit especially if one is aware of more choices and had the opportunity to compare things well.

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  7. jake says:

    If only I could get my wife off of pinterest!!! haha it’s true what’s been said – comparing to the jones’ just leads to frustration! Great post and great advice for being happy with what you have!

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  8. Great post.

    Two thoughts that I have tried to live by (which has been good for my wallet as well as happiness) are:

    1. “I have just enough”. So often we get in the mindset that we need more. But when I look in my cluttered basement and closets, the truth is that I have plenty. I’m not lacking anything. In fact, I’m working on sorting through all of those things that “I just needed at the time”, but are now collecting dust. When we learn to be content with what we have, then that is when we can start managing our money better and also start enjoying what we already have.

    2. Don’t focus on what other people have (even if “everybody else” has it.) We do this with items like a 3D television set, but also with major life changing things; such as buying a house, getting married, having kids, etc. I’ve known people who essentially went out and sought a spouse because “all of their friends are married now or are getting married.” Don’t make decisions based on what other people are doing. Do and buy what is right for you. If you focus on other people in this manner, you will always be trying to chase happiness instead of just being happy.

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